Thoughts
I’ve been thinking lately of how some people view being in relationships as something that is a strength, something that they are proud of showing off to the rest of the world. And then there are others who view being in relationships as a weakness, as a sign of dependence. Now here is my take on everything: I believe that those who do not desperately throw themselves around and find love and happiness are not dependent or weak. On the contrary, those who are hungry for attention and love, in my eyes, are weak and not independently strong at all. I only say this speaking from what I have witnessed, particularly with players/sluts who just cannot stand being “alone” and not in a relationship at all times. I understand that being single or even breaking up can take a huge toll on one’s life especially since the default in our culture is to have a significant other (i.e. prom tickets are cheaper for couples, romantic events/get aways for couples). Nonetheless, standing up to go against the grain actually shows how confident you are as a person to not conform and give into societal pressures. We may not realize this, but there are plenty of people who are widowed/divorced yet they still wake up to each day and make their life what they want it to be. I see it as you can either sit all day moping about being alone and a “loser” or you can get up and do something with your life. And I think remembering not to limit yourself to just your hometown is important since there is so much to discover in the world. And if you cannot travel out of the country, go to a different state or even city. I have personally discovered so much more of the state I live in that I am excited to see more of it. If you want to escape, there are plenty of places to turn to like going to the mountains for hiking or to another city/county to hang out. People may be living in one state, but there are plenty of different kinds of auras that reside in the numerous cities in the state. Coming back to relationships, I feel that being comfortable with yourself and taking care of yourself is a number one priority and that another person should not be your goal or savior. You must be responsible for your own happiness. Do not expect someone else, especially a significant other, to fulfill all your needs. I say this because when it does not happen, hatred will develop and you will start to despise the other for not meeting your standards. Bottom line, be yourself, be comfortable with being alone, and tend to your own needs and wants rather than relying on others.
